Category: Motivational Articles

All Things Happen For A Reason….

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Wow, it has been a Looooooong time since I’ve been on my website.

Does it mean I have been sat on my arse?… it hasn’t !!

I have learnt SO much in the past 9 months it is quite scary when I look back.

All the changes started when I stepped outside of my comfort zone & took a trip to Manchester to an Internet marketing ‘get together’/conference that was attended by some of the P2S lot….

I booked a hotel & took a train to Manchester knowing nobody whatsoever. Two nights.

I took myself off to the conference; looking back, I cringe a bit; I was trying to work out what I was going to wear for a start… smart casual? etc etc….you know what it’s like going into a totally new environment, you try and guess/judge what is respectable; you want to fit it & definitely don’t want to stick out !!

Well, as always, learning curves have to experienced in order to be learned – but in a nutshell – just wear what you want !!!!! – nobody gives a toss. There was some proper odd balls there & short of wearing a full blown Elvis costume & assigned myself to only talking in an ‘Elvis’ accent, nobody would have taken a blind bit of notice !!

As an industry, I shouldn’t have been surprised really…..let’s face, very few people start off a carer in IM, so most people will have had various years of working for others, wearing suits & being told what to do – isn’t this why so many mid life crisis end up into a little jaunt into the ‘World Of The Internet’ !?!?! – So why, if you go down that route, would give a sh*t what you wear !?!?!?

The few days were a real eye opener……some people that you wanted to have faith in gave you no faith at all. Some people were great & made the effort. Some people were just full of it. Some people thought they were selling rather than teaching. They was a real mix of people.

Out of what wasn’t a great experience to be honest, came a ‘chance’ meeting with another attendee from the same course (like I say, all things happen for a reason)…..we ‘bunked’ off the afternoon lecture on the 2nd day & went wandering into Manchester sharing ideas & stories of what we did, have tried, bought & invested in – lol, no we weren’t hand in hand skipping through leaves!!

Anyway, this meeting was 9 months ago & were have moved onward’s & upwards…..we have a company now & speak most days on Skype  what is next, what else we are going to test etc… is a far from the World that I took a sneak peak into & one I am happy with & morally comfortable in….

…..but back to the moral of the story – all things happen for a reason – you may not think it at the time but it does……it’s funny how things work out….

Thanks for reading & I will now endeavor to update my blog with things I find of interest that others will hopefully find useful….

Nigel Griffiths.

Quotes – 7 Days in a Nutshell – # 4

It’s that time again…..a week of my life through the medium of quotes….

It has been one of those weeks….all good intentions but life just got in the way! I do find it very frustrating when you have a list to do of A, B, C & D…….& what gets done? E & a few things that don’t even qualify as letters!

Still, there is no point in complaining! You just have to deal with that, pick yourself up & start again…..

Here are my quotes of the week


“Life is what happens to you whilst you’re busy making other plans..”

– John Lennon (Musician)

“Hold fast to time! Use it! Be conscious of each day, each hour! They slip away unnoticed all too easily & swiftly”

– Thomas Mann (Writer)

“No endeavor that is worthwhile is simple in prospect; if it is right, it will be simple in retrospect”

– Edward Teller (Physicist)

“There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want and, after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second”

– Logan Pearsall Smith (Writer)

So what do you think? Any hit home?

Let me know in the comments below if they have….or put your own quotes that you feel sum up your week, I’d love to hear them!

Thanks for reading.

5 Regrets of the Dying.

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Okay okay….I am aware that this isn’t a great subject line for a Friday afternoon, but I think it is so important that I felt it needed to be shared.

There is nothing in here about getting on Page 1 of Google, free traffic sources of the latest ‘push button’ blueprint.

This is far more important than any of that. This is life….ironically the end of life.

I would hazard a guess that a lot of people involved in internet marketing have already had some sort of life epiphany which took them to want to follow that route – there are endless reasons:  commuting, working for the man, not enough money, hating your boss, going nowhere, a divorce, a death, stuck in a rut, time constraints the list goes on & on.

This is a large factor in why us internet marketeers seem to be relentlessly posting & sharing quotes about life & motivation…we have already bought into the idea that there is something better out there for us & need constant motivation & reassurance that we are doing the right thing.

Which is where this article comes in. This takes one big step backwards so that the whole scene can be surveyed.

And that scene is LIFE.

I have seen the article quite a few times & it really hits home for me so thought it worthy of a post in case my readers have never seen it. It comes from a woman called Bronnie Ware, who ended up in a job linked with palliative care taking care of people in the final stages of life….as a result of this work, she compiled a list of the 5 most common regrets expressed by the people she cared for before they died.

This to me is the pinnacle of what all the quotes & motivation ‘tools’ are trying to do….they are trying to give you some sort of mind shift so you can break moulds & truly take back control of your life & find out what you want from it.

This is the ultimate in life lessons.

They are taught by people who have lived a life, know they are about to die & are able to look back at everything with what must be a very scary & sobering clarity.

Without further ado, here are the 5 main regrets from those she cared for:


1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”


2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”


3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

”This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Credit: Huffington Post

There you go…..I love this article.

I get it.

What I most like about it is that I really think that I don’t have any of those regrets…. but I am also aware that all of these could quite easily become regrets without really noticing (until it’s too late). So I am personally very glad it is now on my blog so I can revisit it every now & again to check that I am still doing okay.

I hope this has made useful & inspiring reading. What are your thoughts? I would love to know….drop me a line below.

Thanks for reading.


Quotes – 7 Days in a Nutshell – # 3

Just over a week since the last installment of this feature…..but what a week!! & how things have changed…

Ooooooh, how intriguing does that sound!?….well more about that in the future (stay tuned!) 

I had my eye on the quotes for this week but I have looked again & picked different ones.


“Be yourself; everyone else is taken.”

– Oscar Wilde (Writer)

“If you have an idea, that’s good. If you also have an idea as to how to work it out, that’s better”

– Henry Ford (Businessman)

“Never follow the crowd”

– Bernard Baruch (Finacier)

“Be willing to make decisions…..don’t fall victim to what I call the ‘Ready – Aim -Aim -Aim – Aim’ syndrome.”

– T. Boone Pickens (Businessman)

Do any of these quotes ring true with your experiences in the last 7 days?

Let me know in the comments below if they have….or put your own quotes that you feel sum up your week, I’d love to hear them!

Thanks for reading.

Quotes – 7 Days in a Nutshell – # 2

Another week. Another collection of quotes that I have identified with.

This is a regular ‘feature’ of my blog, I will be picking a few each week & posting them.

They will be ones that have hit home for me looking back over the past 7 days. Feel free to add your own below!


“Go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.”

– Jimmy Carter (Statesman)

“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.”

– Ray Kroc (Businessman)

“I don’t like people who have never fallen or stumbled. Their virtue is lifeless & isn’t of much value. Life hasn’t revealed its beauty to them”

– Boris Pasternak (Writer)

“Unfortunately, many people do not consider fun an important item on their daily agenda. For me, that was always high priority in whatever I was doing.”

– Gen. Chuck Yeager (Test Pilot)

Do any of these quotes ring true with your experiences in the last 7 days?

Let me know in the comments below if they have….or put your own quotes that you feel sum up your week, I’d love to hear them!

Thanks for reading.

Quotes – 7 Days in a Nutshell – #1

I do love a quote.

Some funny, some life reflective & some motivational.

So, in a regular ‘feature’ of my blog, I will be picking a few each week & posting them.

They will be ones that have hit home for me looking back over the past 7 days. Feel free to add your own below!


“You’ll never really learn much from hearing yourself talk”

– George Clooney (Actor)

“It always seems impossible, until it is done”

-Nelson Mandela (Statesman)

“Go to the edge of the cliff & jump off. Build your wings on the way down”

– Ray Bradbury (Writer)

“You can do anything you want to do as long as you keep a good attitude and keep working at it. But the second you give up you’re screwed”

– Dolly Parton (Singer)

Do any of these quotes ring true with your experiences in the last 7 days?

Let me know in the comments below if they have….or put your own quotes that you feel sum up your week, I’d love to hear them!

Thanks for reading.

How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing: 12 Lessons I Wish I Was Taught – Part 3

And were off again….Part 3 of this series. Here are the next 3 lessons……the remaining 3 will be out over the next few days!


How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing – Part 3


Lesson 7 – “I’m All In”

This is what I told myself over & over. Once I got into affiliate marketing I was going to give it everything I had – money, time & energy. Nothing else in my life mattered.

I sold everything I didn’t need. I saved wherever I could (eating in, not going out). Every dollar saved was a few more clicks for my various campaigns.

I’d spend Saturday night’s setting up campaigns instead of going to clubs. Instead of playing Xbox, I researched keywords.

Half-ass efforts gets half-ass results.

I can totally relate to what is being said here. I don’t think it is all about the money, it is the sacrifices you are prepared to make. For quite a while, if I am being honest, I drifted. It did do lots of work but it was a bit on this, here, a bit on this, there.

My issue was that at the end of the week I had the sense that I had done loads…..but I felt I had achieved very little.

I have only recently realised this & am currently remedying it. I now have a piece of paper beside me & track what I have done & the time it took; I can then look at it and see where I wasted time or got distracted.

The whole concept of “All In” is engrained in my outlook. This is what I WANT to do & by that token I HAVE to make it work. Period.


Lesson 8 – An Obsession With Learning

If you’re not learning, you’re dying.

I felt the above quote to be that important,that I picked it out & put it in red!

Research & learning is so important. There are so many good books out there that for the sake of $10 & a few hours, we can learn what took the author a decade to research.

Further than reading books; ask questions, network with people smarter than you, get a mentor, form a mastermind & attend conferences.

Learn everything about your industry.

Learn everything about your demographics. Do focus groups, read & participate in the forums, read magazines & watch commercials.

Outlearn your competition.

One of the main reasons I am loving all this at present & why it gives me a buzz & has lead me to work more hours than I have ever done, is that every day I am learning something every day & usually far more than just one thing.

These are the building blocks of knowledge in this industry. Every week goes by I add to my pot of information & every week more and more of the puzzle starts being solved.

There is no denying the puzzle is huge & constantly getting bigger & changing…..which is why the 1st sentence of this lesson is so important to remember.


Lesson 9 – Rigorous Testing

There  is always something to test; there is always something to improve.

Traffic sources, offers, images, headlines, landing pages, up sells, down sells, copy, colours, buttons, call to actions, countdown timers, bidding prices, age groups, interests, plugins……the list goes on & on.

If you can optimize properly, you will be able to make money. If you can make more than your competitors, you can spend more on traffic, products etc & reap the rewards.

In any given niche, 20% of the people are making 80% of the profits. Rigorous testing will help you get into the 20%.

I have been running various Facebook campaigns for sites that I have outside of P2S.

The testing talked about above really is important….& the scary thing is, there is SO many variables! and the only way to test properly is to change 1 or 2 things at a time…..then you have to let the campaign run for long enough so you get ‘statistically significant’ results (so not 1 day’s worth of clicks for £10!). 

The above is hard enough to do & takes considerable time. It is greatly exaggerated when each campaign is losing money whilst you are finding the formula.


So that is it for part 3. Did anything hit home? Do you do all the things he is suggesting?

Drop me a line below & share your stories.

Thanks for reading & remember to return for the 4th & final instalment of this little series.
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How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing: 12 Lessons I Wish I Was Taught – Part 2

Following on from where we left off….here is Part 2 of this article by Charles Ngo, coupled with my own thoughts/experiences.


How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing – Part 2


Lesson 4 – Take Action & Be Relentless

Affiliate Marketing is hard to learn as there aren’t really any set blueprints to follow & therefore the failures hurt that much more.

The only real blueprint for success is to ‘attend class’ & train some more.

The reality is that you aren’t going to learn a lot from forums, e-books & blogs. Nobody is going to give too much away….why would they? Why would they want to create their own competition? A least not for free.

Making money online is a skill. It’s not one that is learnt overnight. It takes practice & a lot of failures.

Just get stuck in. Launch a campaign, learn from it, repeat. Do this over & over again until you make money.

This is what all successful people do. You will learn far more from spending $500 in various campaign than you will from spending $500 on most courses.

Everyone who is successful in this business has gone through this at some point.

I do agree with the above point’s wholeheartedly. I am doing this at present with a website that I have running outside of the P2S program. I know it will work, but my goodness is there a lot of expensive failures! But each time I dust me (& my bank account down) and try again! I will make it a success.


Lesson 5 – Drowning in Opportunity

IM is unique in some ways, in that there is not a lack of opportunities….but actually too many!

If your just starting a campaign, you’ve done your research & are all ready to go and then you hear about another opportunity that is ‘hot’, then you re-jig everything as it looks like this has more potential, or you quit halfway through your new campaign to do the same.

This is a real issue in the online World. There will always be something better lurking around the corner.

You need to set a plan & stick with it.

Learn to say ‘No’ !

Oh boy does this ring true in my experience. I work on 2 levels with this. I used to either just jump about between opportunities & never get started properly……or the alternative, which was also pointless, try & do both and end up with 2 diluted campaigns that served no purpose.


Lesson 6 – Who’s In Your Circle

You’re the equivalent of the 5 friends your closest to. Choose friends that themselves are living on the edge, facing their fears & pushing themselves outside of their comfort zone.

Constantly give value to people without ulterior motives.

I put the above in red as I feel this is so key to making it on-line & also fits with what we are doing at P2S.

Learn to recognise the people that know their stuff & you can trust. Nurture relationships. Make friends & learn from others.

Be very aware of ‘Toxic People’. These can be described on many levels.

Avoid negative people who discourage you.
Avoid scammers & people who are going to screw you over. This fits with just taking recommendations from trusted friends etc as outlined above.
Avoid cockroaches – those that appear from nowhere when you start having success.

The above I think is more of a life lesson rather than a specific IM one. Surround yourself with positive influences. Get to know people & make friends/colleagues. Despite this industry seemingly being able to be run in 1 room sat on your backside, this is not how the real World works. Yes, connect with people on Social Media etc; but also try & actually have conversations with people & if at all possible, meet them face to face, it really does make a difference.

I think in the old days they called it networking!


So that concludes part 2 from this article, I hope you enjoyed it & are looking forward to the next instalment. What did you think? Does any of this ring true with your own experiences? Drop me a line & let me know.

Thanks for reading
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How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing: 12 Lessons I Wish I Was Taught – Part 1

I have decided to run a series of posts looking at some of the people I have been following in the IM World. The aim is to bring you some of their articles that I found educational/inspiring & motivational.

My first is from an affiliate marketeer called Charles NGO.

I have no recollection where I stumbled across him, but have been following him for quite a while now & all he does is just give quality content based on his own experiences.

I thought I would take one of the 1st articles of his I read & give you its basics; along with my thoughts & experiences.

I am aware that this article says it is about ‘Affiliate Marketing’, which most are involved in, his expertise is in running campaigns (CPC) on various offers over various traffic sources; this isn’t what everybody does that is reading this, but the basic principles he is talking about, I feel apply to Internet Marketing in general:


How To Make It In Affiliate Marketing

Well no prizes for guessing why I read it at the time! What Newbie wouldn’t?

He talks about what I have seen/witnessed first hand in this industry; that so many people want to make a career using the internet; they start in their droves with good intentions & aspirations spurned on by all the hype & the reported ‘ease’ of making a ‘six figure’ income online!

The reality is that thousand’s try……only a handful succeed & then even fewer stay.

But the ‘Online Career Dream’ is possible, no question, there are lot of people doing it…so what makes them different from the majority that fail?

In an attempt to help you become one of the few success stories, Charles outlined 12 lessons he wished someone would have taught him when he first stated:


Lesson 1 – Get Rid Of Excuses

Don’t make excuses before you even start!

“I don’t understand programming & graphics” “I have a job & kids” “I can’t concentrate”

Many people, in far worse starting positions that you, have succeeded. Keep that in mind.

Don’t complain about a problem. Work on finding a solution.

I love this quote & can honestly say that is what I now do. There is SO much information ‘out there’ that it is very rare that you can’t find somebody that hasn’t been in the same situation before you.

I have come across hundred’s of difficulties on my journey, but have never failed to resolve them.

Google it.

Their are millions of YouTube video’s, Forum posts etc that give you answers to an impossible array of issues & you will be gob smacked as to how specific they get. I have pasted in ‘error coding’ messages into Google & found answers.

For those things that are ‘specialist’, such as graphics, look at Fiverr or oDesk. For those unaware, Fiverr is a website full of different people offering to do things for $5!….such as design a banner, do testimonial video’s, design a logo etc. It is a great cheap resource for a newbie.

The foundation behind lesson 1 is basically, the only person that is responsible for your success or failure is YOU! Nobody else; so stop looking around for a scape goat.
If you want something bad enough & are prepared to put the hours in relentlessly & make sacrifices for as long as it takes…& then after that, give that little bit more…. you will succeed.
Anything short of this is pointless.



Lesson 2 – Failing & Losing Money

A lot of people who think this industry is for them aren’t just built for it.

A lot people have a low pain threshold. It hurts them too much if they try something that fails & that is then compounded when they lose a few hundred dollars/pounds trying it.

The internet is still the ‘Real World’ despite what people think. It is still a business. You will have to spend some money to make it a success.

The reality is that you have to spend money to test nearly everything you try. It makes no sense to spend money on a campaign that eventually fails, then just quit.

This isn’t a failure, you have collected data to help with your next test. Each test & failure gets you closer & closer to Lesson 3.


Lesson 3 – It Only Takes One Campaign

Don’t keep track of how many times you have failed. Nobody else does & nobody else cares.

Keep going. Your 1st winning campaign is the catalyst & tipping point for your success.

When you feel like giving up, just know that you are one campaign away from achieving everything you wanted.

This is very true. Without getting into all the fantastic motivational quotes that are out there, keep moving forward, don’t be afraid to make mistakes as long as you are learning from them.

I personally look back all the time & actually laugh. A year ago I may have been doing something that I thought was a ‘winner’ at the time, but it never worked….when I look back at that time a year on, having learnt all those lessons along the way; to be honest I often cringe at the fact that I thought it might have worked knowing what I know now.


So they are the first three lessons from the original article interlaced with my own experiences. Do any of these ring true from you as a newbie or your time as one? I shall be releasing Charles next 3 lessons in a few days time interlaced with my own thoughts & ramblings. Make sure you sign up for my blog updates, so that I can notify you when I post Part 2 of this series.

Until then, thanks for reading & please feel free to comment below or share with however you think this may interest.

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