5 Regrets of the Dying.

regrets of dying

Okay okay….I am aware that this isn’t a great subject line for a Friday afternoon, but I think it is so important that I felt it needed to be shared.

There is nothing in here about getting on Page 1 of Google, free traffic sources of the latest ‘push button’ blueprint.

This is far more important than any of that. This is life….ironically the end of life.

I would hazard a guess that a lot of people involved in internet marketing have already had some sort of life epiphany which took them to want to follow that route – there are endless reasons:  commuting, working for the man, not enough money, hating your boss, going nowhere, a divorce, a death, stuck in a rut, time constraints the list goes on & on.

This is a large factor in why us internet marketeers seem to be relentlessly posting & sharing quotes about life & motivation…we have already bought into the idea that there is something better out there for us & need constant motivation & reassurance that we are doing the right thing.

Which is where this article comes in. This takes one big step backwards so that the whole scene can be surveyed.

And that scene is LIFE.

I have seen the article quite a few times & it really hits home for me so thought it worthy of a post in case my readers have never seen it. It comes from a woman called Bronnie Ware, who ended up in a job linked with palliative care taking care of people in the final stages of life….as a result of this work, she compiled a list of the 5 most common regrets expressed by the people she cared for before they died.

This to me is the pinnacle of what all the quotes & motivation ‘tools’ are trying to do….they are trying to give you some sort of mind shift so you can break moulds & truly take back control of your life & find out what you want from it.

This is the ultimate in life lessons.

They are taught by people who have lived a life, know they are about to die & are able to look back at everything with what must be a very scary & sobering clarity.

Without further ado, here are the 5 main regrets from those she cared for:


1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”


2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”


3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

”This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Credit: Huffington Post

There you go…..I love this article.

I get it.

What I most like about it is that I really think that I don’t have any of those regrets…. but I am also aware that all of these could quite easily become regrets without really noticing (until it’s too late). So I am personally very glad it is now on my blog so I can revisit it every now & again to check that I am still doing okay.

I hope this has made useful & inspiring reading. What are your thoughts? I would love to know….drop me a line below.

Thanks for reading.



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